Carr decided to join the Navy and applied to OCS his senior year in college in response to 9/11. Carr grew up in New York City and worked on the 92nd Floor of the north tower of the World Trade Center during the summer before his senior year at college. He left for college 3 weeks prior to the plane hitting the north tower and killing everybody who was at the firm at the time (approximately 8:30 am). He went to OCS at Pensacola and trained to be a Flight Officer and was assigned to E-2 Hawkeyes. He fell in love with the Navy and decided to make it his career. He was deployed 4 times in the Middle East, as well as deployment in South and Central American in conjunction with DEA operations. He flew in over 200 combat missions. He served as a Flag Aide to Admiral Philip S. Davidson. Prior to his death he had been promoted to serve as the Executive Officer to VAW 125, the Tigertails, with CAW 5 assigned to the USS Ronald Reagan in Japan. He is loved dearly by his family and friends and is missed each and every day.
Command Support
A Leader's Guide to Fulfilling Our Promise
As a leader, your responsibility to your Sailors extends to their families, especially in the wake of a loss. The Navy Gold Star (NGS) Program is your dedicated partner in upholding this sacred trust. By integrating the Gold Star program into your command's support structure, you reinforce our promise to care for our own, allowing you to focus on your mission with the confidence that expert, long-term support is in place.
Why Gold Star Matters to Your Command
- Reinforces Sailor & Family Readiness: When your Sailors see the Navy caring for the families of the fallen, it builds immense trust and reinforces the message that their own families will be supported, no matter what. This is a powerful and direct boost to command morale and confidence.
- Provides Expert, Long-Term Support: You are not expected to be a grief counselor or benefits expert. NGS coordinators are the designated professionals who guide survivors through the complex, sensitive needs of a grieving family for years to come, long after initial casualty assistance is complete.
- Preserves Your Sailor's Legacy: NGS coordinators help you and your command find appropriate and meaningful ways to honor and remember your fallen Sailor, ensuring their sacrifice is never forgotten and their story continues to be a part of your command’s heritage.
How Your Gold Star Coordinator Directly Supports You
| Your Command's Needs | How Your NGS Coordinator Helps |
|---|---|
| A family has a complex question. | Serves as the direct point of contact, reducing the burden on your staff. |
| You are planning a memorial. | Provides guidance and resources to ensure the event is respectful and honors the family's wishes. |
| You need to brief your team. | Delivers command-level briefings on important administrative topics such as the “Just In Case” Paperwork. |
| You need to connect a family to resources. | Navigates the network of government and non-profit organizations to find the right help at the right time. |
Actionable Ways Your Command Can Support
| Initiative / Action | How It Supports Our Promise |
|---|---|
| Download the Commander's Guide to Casualty Assistance | This guide is the definitive resource for command leadership. It provides the official, step-by-step procedures to navigate a crisis correctly and compassionately, ensuring you are prepared to act decisively when it matters most. |
| Promote the 'Just in Case' Brief | Empower your Sailors to prepare their personal affairs. This proactive step significantly eases the administrative burden on their families during a time of incredible stress, ensuring their wishes are known and organized. |
| Host a 'Bells Across America' Ceremony | Join the worldwide tribute each September. By hosting a ceremony, your command publicly honors the sacrifices of fallen service members and provides a powerful moment of unity and support for their families and the community. |
| Engage in Gold Star Awareness Month | Dedicate time in May to honor and connect with Gold Star families. There are a multitude of ways to show support, such as inviting families for ship tours, including them in command parties, or hosting special remembrance events. These activities foster a lasting sense of belonging and community. |
Connect with Your Support Network
- Find Your Local Coordinator: Visit the "Locations" page on this website.
- Call for Information: 1-888-509-8759
For More Information
Visit us at www.facebook.com/NavyGoldStar.
Navy Gold Star Tributes
Remembering Mathew
When I think of Mathew, I'm reminded of his incredible sense of adventure. Instead of college, he chose to join the Navy straight out of high school, craving the thrill of exploring the world. Smart, funny, and kind-hearted, his towering 6'5" frame matched his larger-than-life personality perfectly. We lost an extraordinary soul that day, and the void he left behind is immeasurable. To us, he was known as Boo... a nickname that originated from his mischievous childhood antics that always led to another "Boo, Boo" moment. In loving memory of a remarkable son, brother, grandson, and friend who left us all too soon. Mathew, you are missed beyond measure, but your spirit lives on in our hearts and our memories. We love you Boo. Forever & Always.
He was proud to represent the Navy and a very proud father of three!
He was also a true hero on the day that the USS Bonefish had a fire and helped others first before himself.
Bruce was born January 12, 1973, in Frankfurt, Germany. He moved to
Poughkeepsie in June, 1979. While attending Spackenkill High School, he
was on the cross country team, was captain of the tennis team, and was
very active in school theater. Bruce was the class president of the
Spackenkill High School class of 1991.
Saying, "I like the challenge", Bruce accepted a nomination to the US Naval
Academy, entering in July 1991. In 1995 He graduated with a BS in Ocean
Engineering from the Naval Academy. He was selected for Naval Aviation
training, earning his "Wings of Gold" in February 1998.
Bruce was selected for further training in the F/A-18 Hornet aircraft, the
Navy's primary attack jet. Upon completion of transition training he was
assigned to Attack/Fighter Squadron 25 (VFA-25). VFA-25 deployed aboard the
USS Abraham Lincoln in August 2000 to enforce the Southern No-Fly Zone in
Iraq.
USS Port Royal (CG 73)
Cade Edward Butler was born June 11, 1989. He went to Heaven August 8, 2011.
He was the youngest of three. Cade’s sister, Kaonii King and brother, Michael Horton.
Cade was a highly intelligent young man; he grew up way too fast! Cade was very social, he accepted everyone. When Cade was 15 yrs. He traveled to Guatemala with a mission’s group to help build the Guatemalans a church. Cade had lots of great stories of his trip. He had ordered himself a Pepsi one day, and the guy behind the counter asked him if he wanted a bottle (which cost more) or if he wanted it in a plastic bag with a straw. Cade thought this was hilarious.
Cade said he felt a calling of joining the Navy and enlisted in 2007. He was very responsible and was able to move up ranks quickly. He wanted to go from a Seaman to an Admiral. Cade was a Fire Controlman 2nd Class. Cade explained to his mother that was not a “Fireman”, his job was to shoot down missiles that were aimed at his ship.
Cade will always be remembered for his big heart and smile. He will be forever missed.
One day we will reunite again in heaven.
Michael Pleasants was born in the Bronx, New York and moved to Teaneck, New Jersey. He excelled academically receiving an academic scholarship to Hampton University. In 2015 Michael enlisted in the United States Navy, continuing his family legacy of military service. He achieved the rank of Petty Officer Second Class, assigned as a Yeoman 2. He was twice selected as Navy Sailor of the Quarter and distinguished as Navy Sailor of the Year. He was decorated with many medals and commendations. During Michael’s military service he earned two college degrees. He graduated with an Associate of Science degree from Bergen Community College and in 2021 he graduated with a Bachelor of Science degree from Pennsylvania State University. Michael was involved in entrepreneurial endeavors, creating variants of a software application that was designed to bring people together. He also had passions that included an in depth understanding of business and finance.
Peyton joined the navy out of high school in December of 2011. After boot camp at Great Lakes, he reported to VR-54 in Belle Chase, La., where for the next 4 years he was a loadmaster on a C-130. In that position he flew around the world several times, lost track of how many times he was in Hawaii and visited over 50 countries. He then changed jobs and became an airframe mechanic for the next 2 years. Peyton re-joined for 4 more years in February 2018, reporting to VFA-122 in Lemoore, Ca. to work on FA18E/F Super Hornets. While Peyton was there, he was chosen to represent VFA-122 as part of the West Coast Rhino Tactical Demonstration Team. In December of 2021 Peyton re-joined for 6 more years to get back to where he had started at VR-54 Louisiana. Sadly on 2/28/2022 he was struck by a car and killed.
Jose Luis (Joey) Resendez was born in Austin, Texas and grew up in El Paso, Texas. Joey graduated with distinction from Cathedral High School in 2014 and received an appointment to the United States Naval Academy. He graduated in 2019. At the time of his death, he was assigned to the U.S.S. Leyte Gulf (CG-55). His first ship was the U.S.S. Truxtun (DDG-103). Joey was always the life of the party, the “ride or die” and the standout in all he did. Joey lived a life of purpose and adventure. He never denied himself a challenge or an experience and that zeal for life was contagious to anyone lucky enough to be in his presence. He had an amazing sense of humor, a quick and enviable intelligence, and a gentleness and kindness rarely found. He had a beautiful and genuine smile, a huge heart, and a generous nature. RIP
(submitted by his loving wife, Mylene)
Jake was the gatekeeper of nicknames, lover of animals, and a damn good dad. Known for his funny personality, selfless heart, and cranky attitude if he didn’t get enough sleep; a true gem in the world we lost too soon.
Jefrey Jatniel Rosario Rodriguez was a young man who loved God and his family. He always helped others and possessed a tender heart. He was a wonderful son, brother, and friend. Upon his passing, we were able to see just how many lives he had touched with his joy, love, and testimony. Today, we honor your life by remembering every moment we shared embracing, laughing, and weeping together. We will love you always, and you will live on in our hearts.
PO2 Brian Adam Lane was born July 21, 1980. He served as a Nuclear Electronic Technician, 2nd Class on the USS Lincoln, stationed at Whidbey Island, Washington. Brian died on September 30, 2006. Brian was a valedictorian at Prague High School, Prague Oklahoma. Brian went on to study Chemical Engineering at the University of Oklahoma when he decided to join the United States Navy. Brian left behind a wife: Julie and a daughter: Kailey. He now has a granddaughter: Breely and soon to have a grandson: Kamdyn.
Served in the Navy from 2012 - 2020.
Ethan was born in Mission Viejo, CA; two years later the family moved to Gilbert, AZ. After 10 years the family moved to Mesa, AZ where Ethan graduated from Red Mountain High School in 2010. Ethan’s love of the military strategy started very early with computer games, history books, movies and his beloved PlayStation. After 4 years at Safeway grocery store, Ethan decided to join the Navy in 2012. Ethan spent 5 years on the USS Gridley (DDG101) that included 2 deployments. USS Gridley was ported 4 years in San Diego and 1 year in Everett Washington. After completing duty on the USS Gridley, Ethan went back to San Diego for 2 years to USS Zumwalt (DDG1000) to get the ship sea ready. By July 2019 Ethan was assigned to the USS Wayne E. Meyer (DDG108) in Hawaii which included 1 deployment. Ethan earned numerous awards and promotions including 5 Navy and Marine Achievement Corps Medals. Ethan was known by many shipmates to be consistently hardworking and someone you could count on. Ethan was known for caring for shipmates professional and personal issues. Ethan was known for smiling and using humor to help everyone get through the long days. Ethan leaves behind a family who loves him and misses him every day .
Navy Hospital Corpsman Riley Gallinger-Long
Died August 11, 2011 Serving During Operation Enduring Freedom.
He was 19 years old and assigned to 1st Battalion, 6th Marines, Regimental Combat Team 1, 2nd Marine Division, II Marine Expeditionary Force at Camp Lejeune, N.C.
He was KIA on Aug. 11, 2011, in Marjah district, Helmand province, Afghanistan, while conducting a dismounted patrol.
After his death, a local park in his hometown of Cornelius, OR was dedicated as Veterans Memorial Park to honor all service members who have given the ultimate sacrifice. See the news article here: https://www.oregonlive.com/forest-grove/2012/06/cornelius_dedicates_park_to_ve.html”
Writtten by Zack Gallinger-Long, Gold Star Sibling
As a Naval Aircrewman - Avionics (AWV), Thomas was stationed at NAS Whidbey Island, Fleet Air Recon Squadron ONE (VQ-1) “WORLD WATCHERS!” He served as a member aboard maritime patrol/reconnaissance aircraft. Thomas was knowledgeable as he also performed primary in-flight and ground duties as an aircraft In-Flight Technician. Thomas went on to achieve the rate AWV2 – on the EP-3E. Thomas enjoyed many hobbies during his free time. He liked tinkering with automobiles, playing video games, building computer gaming systems, and reading books. He also enjoyed driving and listening to music, big bonfires, and collecting and shooting various firearms. He loved being outside and went on many outdoor adventures.